Thursday, March 15, 2012

Time Off... What's That??

It's a busy world we live in.

A lot of times I feel like there isn't enough time in a day that allows for me to do all that I need to. Even when I arrange for intentional time off, that seems to be engulfed by the hustle and bustle of life.

It's the way our society works! Our minds have formed this idea that if we aren't doing something then it's not right. By this, a lot of things in our personal life suffer, even if we recognize it or not. In my short years I'm learning the importance of taking time and getting away from certain aspects that consume majority of my time.

Too much of one thing can be bad! It's hard to express how true this statement is. Especially when it involves something we are passionate and sold out to. This can be looked at from any aspect of your own life. School, relationships, career, ambitions, personal activities. We get so wrapped up that it almost gets to a point of not being able to stop and take a breath. And that's unhealthy!

I truly believe it is absolutely necessary to take some time off. It's liberating to get away, not stress, leave all the madness behind and simply refocus. That break allows for you to be free. Something we all need time to time in this crazy world.

Sadly, most do not know what time off is. Or we just feel that we can't allow ourselves a moment to regroup. We are a people who GO, GO, GO. Yet, we need to take the time and realize how beneficial "time off" can be. Drop all cares, forget you have certain responsibilities and allow yourself to enjoy the greatness of taking some time off. Even if it's only for a moment, that moment can realign you and set the trajectory for your day, week, month or year.

Enjoy the freedom of time off!!!

Thursday, March 1, 2012

Who Would Of Thunk It...???

We all go through different seasons in our life...

Some, we understand. Others, they leave us with huge question marks in the beginning.

I just recently completed my very first coaching experience. I've always had the idea that I would one day coach but never imagined it would be this soon in my life. I kind of had this preconceived plan that it would happen once I was done doing what I had to do for my life.

It's funny how things don't always work out the way we plan!

About four months ago I was presented with the question of... would I want to be an assistant basketball coach for my former high school. However, the question wasn't just that simple. The catch was, I would be coaching high school GIRLS!!! My immediate response was NO. I didn't want to coach, it wasn't my time and plus we're talking about high school girls basketball, BORING.

I wish I could tell you I stuck to my plan, that I passed the offer and continued with what I thought I should be doing. Yet, if that wish had come true I would have missed out on one of the most unique and special opportunities in my life to date.

As I look back over the experience it started out for selfish reason. It was a paid position and I needed the extra money. Little did I know that I was in for the EXPERIENCE of a lifetime!

 I'm a guy, the way I function is completely different. I never had a sister growing up, only girlfriends and any genius knows that there is a significant difference between the two. Yet, amongst all their weird and quirky behavior, these girls somehow managed to leave an imprint on my life. Something that I am truly grateful for.

As you get older, responsibilities begin to pile up. I was dealt certain situations that had stripped me of some of my youth and forced me to carry out responsibilities far before my appointed time. Nevertheless, I believe that nothing happens by chance or some form of random occurrence. There is a specific reasoning for it all and certain pieces fill the puzzle.

These girls gave me back a piece of my youth. They didn't form walls or pretend to be something they weren't. They gave me the chance to be who I was and they accepted me for that. They showed me that you don't always have to be professional to be effective. Life should be full of laughter. And you don't have to sweat the little things, instead capture the moments that really count.


I'm willing to bet that not a single one of them would ever believe that they could have some kind of effect on me...  and neither did I. They taught me a valuable lesson...  never disqualify a person or group of people just because you think they have nothing to offer you. I remember having two distinct conversations at the beginning of all this. I was told that my outlook would be completely changed by the end of the season if not earlier. It's almost comical, not only was my outlook changed but I was given pieces to my puzzle in life that will last forever.

Words on a page cannot begin to describe these girls. It probably wouldn't even do it justice! They weren't the most talented, didn't do everything perfect, nor could they comprehend at times what we as coaches were trying to get across. However, their heart outweighed any level of talent, execution, or comprehension that stepped out on the court. They fought hard throughout the season and chose time and time again to persevere no matter what hand was dealt. They allowed me to regain focus on something I was letting slip away. They became a TEAM and truly cared for one another. That in and of itself speaks volumes that go way beyond any record or athletic accomplishments.

Some may say, your team didn't end up doing what ya'll set out to do. That we weren't very good at all. Or even say that any level of success was a mishap and not because you guys deserved it. I would tell those people their wrong. They didn't have a front row seat to see a team grow into something that goes far beyond the basketball court. Everything that these girls accomplished impacted their lives and mine. Even if it can't be seen on the surface. This post is just a small portion of exemplifying what they did for me.

Those question marks in the beginning, they got answered. Answered in a way that I could have never imagined. I came into a situation not expecting much. I walked out of an experience gaining 12 little sisters who impacted my life forever. WHO WOULD OF THUNK IT???

[If you've had an experience like this or just want to comment, feel free. Any feedback would be beneficial to this post or blog.]