Tuesday, May 1, 2012

Not The End, Just The Beginning

I always thought blogging was kind of girly!! Then I reached this point where my mind was filled with thousands of thoughts but I didn't know how to express them. With my current position and things I was striving for in life, I found myself with a lot of long nights, deep thoughts. I had recently been hearing from multiple people that I needed to journal everything down, that way I had a record of all my thoughts and it could potentially turn into one of those "good stories."
I've always wanted to be strong with my words. Our words have the power of life and death! Whether that be through verbal or written, I knew that I wanted my words to have an impact on the lives of others. That's when a great opportunity presented itself in the form of blogging. It forced me to write but at the same time allowed for me to really be intentional with my thoughts and what I was putting out for the world to see. I wanted it to be an expression of who I am and what I represent. I wanted my story to help someone along the way. As resourceful as our media outlets are, I knew that this was just the beginning of one of the ways I wanted to imprint the world.
I've loved every minute of blogging. It's allowed for me to become an artist in my own way. I plan to continue with THE - DASH for my personal benefit and hopefully to the benefit of others. Expressing my thoughts and really labeling them has helped me organize time frames and memories. I hope and pray that I can communicate in the appropriate manner to captivate an audience and influence them with words!

Tuesday, April 24, 2012

The Journey And The Transformation

We all embark on our own individual journeys.
Most are reaching and striving for an ultimate destination. For some, it's a chaotic feeling and the only thing that matters is the finish line. People become wrapped and swarmed with the destination that they barely recognize moments along the journey.
Defining moments at that...

I got the opportunity to sit and listen to a man whose story impacted a world. His words were like dollar bills, wanting to grab as many as possible for myself. Then, Mr. Russell Goings made a statement, an incomplete statement at that but it sparked a world wind of thoughts in my mind.
The journey and the transformation...
I began to think about my own journey and what transformations had already come. It's a hard concept to believe. I feel that change doesn't necessarily happen unless I reach the end goal. I strive to accomplish big things and never settle for ordinary but it's probably the hardest character trait that I have about myself.
Because it's not easy, in fact it's down right aggravating to be honest. When you have a vision or idea for your life and you want to see it through but certain aspects on the surface are not tangible, it makes you doubt. Doubt ruins the process and if your not strong enough to push through then doubt will ultimately destroy your goal.
There are highs and lows of every story. As I sat and listened to Mr. Goings I saw how his process brought transformation. It wasn't about his destination but had everything to do with his journey, process, and lessons learned while waiting that transformed him.
The real glory is in what's learned along the way!
That beginning vision is impacted by not only the moment but the past rushing into the future. Mr Goings said something profound yet simple. "You have to get naked, that's the step between remarkably good and GREAT!"
The process of the journey is beautiful. It's unclothed, raw but you must be receptive of it in order to be able to know who you are.
I'm still on this journey and who knows when I'll reach that ultimate destination. However, I'm daily trying to remind myself that it's not about the destination but the process along this journey that's important. We're more alive as people when we bring stuff to the moments. But if we fail to realize these things we could miss out on something so profound, beautiful, and transforming. We could fail to realize what changes have been made in us along the journey and not fully know who we are as a person. That would be a tragedy! Being transformed along your journey is an extraordinary thing, a thing that we need to be receptive to seeing.

Thursday, March 15, 2012

Time Off... What's That??

It's a busy world we live in.

A lot of times I feel like there isn't enough time in a day that allows for me to do all that I need to. Even when I arrange for intentional time off, that seems to be engulfed by the hustle and bustle of life.

It's the way our society works! Our minds have formed this idea that if we aren't doing something then it's not right. By this, a lot of things in our personal life suffer, even if we recognize it or not. In my short years I'm learning the importance of taking time and getting away from certain aspects that consume majority of my time.

Too much of one thing can be bad! It's hard to express how true this statement is. Especially when it involves something we are passionate and sold out to. This can be looked at from any aspect of your own life. School, relationships, career, ambitions, personal activities. We get so wrapped up that it almost gets to a point of not being able to stop and take a breath. And that's unhealthy!

I truly believe it is absolutely necessary to take some time off. It's liberating to get away, not stress, leave all the madness behind and simply refocus. That break allows for you to be free. Something we all need time to time in this crazy world.

Sadly, most do not know what time off is. Or we just feel that we can't allow ourselves a moment to regroup. We are a people who GO, GO, GO. Yet, we need to take the time and realize how beneficial "time off" can be. Drop all cares, forget you have certain responsibilities and allow yourself to enjoy the greatness of taking some time off. Even if it's only for a moment, that moment can realign you and set the trajectory for your day, week, month or year.

Enjoy the freedom of time off!!!

Thursday, March 1, 2012

Who Would Of Thunk It...???

We all go through different seasons in our life...

Some, we understand. Others, they leave us with huge question marks in the beginning.

I just recently completed my very first coaching experience. I've always had the idea that I would one day coach but never imagined it would be this soon in my life. I kind of had this preconceived plan that it would happen once I was done doing what I had to do for my life.

It's funny how things don't always work out the way we plan!

About four months ago I was presented with the question of... would I want to be an assistant basketball coach for my former high school. However, the question wasn't just that simple. The catch was, I would be coaching high school GIRLS!!! My immediate response was NO. I didn't want to coach, it wasn't my time and plus we're talking about high school girls basketball, BORING.

I wish I could tell you I stuck to my plan, that I passed the offer and continued with what I thought I should be doing. Yet, if that wish had come true I would have missed out on one of the most unique and special opportunities in my life to date.

As I look back over the experience it started out for selfish reason. It was a paid position and I needed the extra money. Little did I know that I was in for the EXPERIENCE of a lifetime!

 I'm a guy, the way I function is completely different. I never had a sister growing up, only girlfriends and any genius knows that there is a significant difference between the two. Yet, amongst all their weird and quirky behavior, these girls somehow managed to leave an imprint on my life. Something that I am truly grateful for.

As you get older, responsibilities begin to pile up. I was dealt certain situations that had stripped me of some of my youth and forced me to carry out responsibilities far before my appointed time. Nevertheless, I believe that nothing happens by chance or some form of random occurrence. There is a specific reasoning for it all and certain pieces fill the puzzle.

These girls gave me back a piece of my youth. They didn't form walls or pretend to be something they weren't. They gave me the chance to be who I was and they accepted me for that. They showed me that you don't always have to be professional to be effective. Life should be full of laughter. And you don't have to sweat the little things, instead capture the moments that really count.

I'm willing to bet that not a single one of them would ever believe that they could have some kind of effect on me...  and neither did I. They taught me a valuable lesson...  never disqualify a person or group of people just because you think they have nothing to offer you. I remember having two distinct conversations at the beginning of all this. I was told that my outlook would be completely changed by the end of the season if not earlier. It's almost comical, not only was my outlook changed but I was given pieces to my puzzle in life that will last forever.

Words on a page cannot begin to describe these girls. It probably wouldn't even do it justice! They weren't the most talented, didn't do everything perfect, nor could they comprehend at times what we as coaches were trying to get across. However, their heart outweighed any level of talent, execution, or comprehension that stepped out on the court. They fought hard throughout the season and chose time and time again to persevere no matter what hand was dealt. They allowed me to regain focus on something I was letting slip away. They became a TEAM and truly cared for one another. That in and of itself speaks volumes that go way beyond any record or athletic accomplishments.

Some may say, your team didn't end up doing what ya'll set out to do. That we weren't very good at all. Or even say that any level of success was a mishap and not because you guys deserved it. I would tell those people their wrong. They didn't have a front row seat to see a team grow into something that goes far beyond the basketball court. Everything that these girls accomplished impacted their lives and mine. Even if it can't be seen on the surface. This post is just a small portion of exemplifying what they did for me.

Those question marks in the beginning, they got answered. Answered in a way that I could have never imagined. I came into a situation not expecting much. I walked out of an experience gaining 12 little sisters who impacted my life forever. WHO WOULD OF THUNK IT???

[If you've had an experience like this or just want to comment, feel free. Any feedback would be beneficial to this post or blog.]

Friday, February 10, 2012

How He Loves

As I was riding in the car today, a song came on the radio that you may or may not know. It's titled "How He Loves" by the band David Crowder. The lyrics to this song really took hold of my attention and I began to connect it to this upcoming Valentine's Day.
A portion of the lyrics read...

"And heaven meets earth like an unforeseen kiss
And my heart turns violently inside my chest
I don't have time to maintain these regrets 
When I think about the way...
How He loves"

On one end, these lyrics brought to mind the relationship that I have with my girlfriend. We've been dating for SOME years now, so I can say with confidence that I do love her. So this isn't one of those fairy tale, we've been dating for 2 weeks, ooohhh I think you're the one type circumstances. There's some validity to the relationship. Christ has given us this awesome opportunity to have companionship and to love in our lifetime. Having that connection with someone is a remarkable feeling, I'm sure most of you would agree.

The first kiss moments that are unforeseen, leaving you breathless. The raw emotion that leaves your heart violently overtaken with joy. And when you find that love, you let go of the past and no longer maintain regret when you think about how that person loves you!!

BUT, there is a love that far exceeds any feeling or emotion that another human being could give us.

In our human minds we cannot begin to fathom the depths of God's love for us. That "unforeseen kiss" when Jesus bared the sin of the world and died for you and me. He sacrificed His life for us so that heaven could meet earth. When you have a true relationship with Christ, hope swells in your heart and in turn beats violently inside your chest for all that Christ has done, is doing, and going to do! And when we embrace His love and capture a small glimpse of how He loves us, there's no choice but to abandon our regrets and pursue HIS LOVE FOR US!

So this Valentine's Day, cherish the blessings of your relationships. Their special each in there own unique way. God gave us this gift of love and we should use it to honor Him. However, never lose sight of the ONE LOVE that will never leave you or forsake you. It's precious and more valuable than any human relationship. That's where we find our true happiness, in the fact that no matter what...


Wednesday, February 1, 2012

It's All About The DASH

Have you ever had a thought to somehow leave your imprint on the world...?

Well welcome to mine!



The idea behind "The Dash" is to create a vision for your life that allows you to live daily with higher expectancy. Take a moment and picture this in your mind. At the end of our life, there will be two things that all people will see. First, your beginning birth date and second, your ending death date. In between those two dates is a DASH. The importance and value of that DASH far outweighs those dates. And that's my goal...

I want people, specifically the youth to understand and grasp the fact that the journey is beautiful. It doesn't matter where you started or even where you finish. What you do in the MIDDLE of all that is what counts!

Through this blog I hope to inspire, motivate, and develop people's lives. Create a new way of thinking beyond the thought of merely just surviving. I'm just a kid but I got a pocket full of dreams hoping to leave an imprint on this world. Not so that I can boast but to create a cycle of people imprinting people that changes the world.

As I'm still learning and growing, I hope that we all can TAKE HOLD and EFFECTIVELY DEDICATE our ABILITIES in order to SACRIFICE ourselves and HONOR God and those that are in our circle of influence.